tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post8936499002448107971..comments2023-09-18T10:58:08.037-04:00Comments on Dream.Flight.Genesis: The Big Talk - And An Attitude Changems.shandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-16467563922950929042010-09-11T08:55:45.794-04:002010-09-11T08:55:45.794-04:00Thanks! Good luck with Russian history! =)Thanks! Good luck with Russian history! =)ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-62472672917445894792010-09-11T05:57:03.515-04:002010-09-11T05:57:03.515-04:00*Pops in to leave quick comment to tell you that I...*Pops in to leave quick comment to tell you that I'm proud of you....runs off to finish boring assignment*Mandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-4239455899771740522010-09-09T23:39:53.340-04:002010-09-09T23:39:53.340-04:00@Tina That is exactly what I have been thinking ab...@Tina That is exactly what I have been thinking about the stereotyping. It has occurred to me before now, but in the area of assuming people will have a prejudice against me, I guess I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder still.<br /><br />@Leslie You are so right about the positive aspects of a small community. I've had such a great week with my new perspective. :)<br /><br />@Amy I don't think she was trying to do anything malicious. Whatever her motivation, it was a pretty scary situation. <br /><br />@Sophie I'm so glad you found your new position. Sounds like quite an adventure! Thanks for the comment, and I'm so glad we got to meet before your move.<br /><br />@Melissa Thanks!<br /><br />@Suzi You are right about smiling. Actually, I always have done exactly that and people probably don't realize how much of the time I'm terrified and over-analyzng everything going on around me. :P<br /><br />@Jerica When it comes to transition specifically, I'm very willing to stand up for myself. But in other areas I'm kind of passive. I really think its mostly due to a lack of confidence. <br /><br />@Robin I got such a smile out of that. I can hardly wait! I'll get those photos up! :)<br /><br />@Stace Thanks!ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-54027709819910552202010-09-09T14:21:52.914-04:002010-09-09T14:21:52.914-04:00What the others said :)
StaceWhat the others said :)<br /><br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-63239860167679880122010-09-08T21:47:21.179-04:002010-09-08T21:47:21.179-04:00*pinches nose and says in nasally tone*
"Ma...*pinches nose and says in nasally tone*<br /> <br />"May I have your attention please, may I have your attention? Will Ms. Shannon Garrison please come to the high school office?" (Repeat ad nauseum)<br /><br />It's only a matter of time. And you TOTALLY know you can hear them saying that right now.<br /><br />Oh, and this is me reminding you to upload some of those pictures from this weekend! Especially the ones of us and the mummified hot dog. :DRobinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08632790916156101219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-12216919747880737362010-09-08T19:41:00.448-04:002010-09-08T19:41:00.448-04:00Well girl I'm so glad your boss seems amenable...Well girl I'm so glad your boss seems amenable. That is great news!<br /><br />At the same time, you do need to be able to stand up for yourself when you come out, usually.<br /><br />I was a total pushover, esp to those I loved, like my ex-wife. Before I could even be allowed to transition, I had to push past that...even just to see a gender therapist. It was hard but it was just the beginning of standing up for myself.Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06752910753527115712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-28497924879987212182010-09-08T18:51:52.915-04:002010-09-08T18:51:52.915-04:00I have to give Tina kudos too. Your blog blew me a...I have to give Tina kudos too. Your blog blew me away! I barely know what to say except onward and upward girl. I'm really not surprised at your supervisor's reaction and advice. You just had to find out on your own I guess...lol.<br /><br />I couldn't agree with him more when he questioned your self-esteem. Hopefully this whole event will help you see that you really ARE as important as anyone else. I noticed you used the term "conservative" many times. This is where Tina's great advice will really serve you well. You even hinted at a growing understanding about your own preconceptions. <br /><br />When you can look at those sneering students/staff and smile at them...sincerely, then you will be on your way to creating a totally new image for them to learn to love. I know you have a sweet smile...I've seen it in pictures. Begin NOW to create the woman you seek to become...a confident, happy person. The only way you can change the way other people treat you, is to be yourself. I feel very confident that in time life will begin to reach a much more even keel. Students will graduate, staff will move on, the newness of working with a TS will wear off, etc. Keep your heart strong...join the human race as Shandy. The world needs you. :)SuziAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-20323047073606094742010-09-08T15:28:05.345-04:002010-09-08T15:28:05.345-04:00I couldn't put it better than all of the above...I couldn't put it better than all of the above, especially Tina. What great friends you have! And that boss of yours, sounds like real sweet guy!<br /><br />Hang in there girl, you are doing great!<br /><br />Melissa XXMelissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-49032539105220395822010-09-08T14:35:45.641-04:002010-09-08T14:35:45.641-04:00A funny thing about the spine...when you realize t...A funny thing about the spine...when you realize that you are not ashamed of who you are, when you know you are doing the right thing and being the best person you can be, then people will look up to you for being courageous, whether you feel it or night.<br /><br />Doing what you have been doing is extremely courageous, even though you felt you had no choice.<br /><br />When I went full time, a curious thing happened. I have a little bit of logical assertiveness that I associated with my male side, that suddenly had no outlet. My dominant female aspects had relegated it to my work environment where it was useful when I was full-time outside of work. Within a couple of weeks, I wound up fusing those qualities back in, and I am assuming that those qualities mixed back in made me more social and productive at the same time, a fact not lost on my recent interview for a new job.<br /><br />As a matter of fact, I am starting to be given the cold shoulder now, not because I am transgender, but because I am leaving.<br /><br />I have never seen a supervisor, who was considered "cold-blooded" well up in tears before when I made my announcement to work elsewhere.<br /><br />You are getting the same reputation. It's a strength and it will do you well as you progress through your transition.<br /><br />Also, I will miss you. I am heading out of state for a new job and I had hoped to see you at the group meeting on Friday.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />SophieSophie Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00058775423288260277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-64966710440089288202010-09-08T12:39:41.206-04:002010-09-08T12:39:41.206-04:00Jeez. Who knows what those kids are up to, but who...Jeez. Who knows what those kids are up to, but who cares? You seem to have very understanding coworkers. Kids can be tricky. Maybe that kid is up to something. Maybe she identifies with you in some way, or knows someone who is trans. Either way, just keep your wits about you and you should be fine. :)Amy K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01731056254476935306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-53519646509391410052010-09-08T04:16:51.692-04:002010-09-08T04:16:51.692-04:00Wow, Shannon! Like Tina, I hadn't a clue abou...Wow, Shannon! Like Tina, I hadn't a clue about what was going on. Sylvia told me that full time was imminent, but there's a lot more to the story! We really must talk more...<br /><br />It sounds like there are a lot of good people working with you in the school. Your boss having a wife with trans experience is a big bonus.<br /><br />Here's the thing about small towns where everyone knows one other. They tend to protect their own, like an extended family. What you have perceived as a liability may actually be a saving grace. These folks have known you and your family for many years, and regard you highly. They just might accept a new you.<br /><br />Good luck with that spine thing. If you figure it out, please share the secret with me.<br /><br />Love ya, babe!Leslie Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373261212549008939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-51248164300294716142010-09-08T02:37:44.980-04:002010-09-08T02:37:44.980-04:00Oh yeah, one more thing. Something I learned the ...Oh yeah, one more thing. Something I learned the hard way. <br />"Never, ever for any reason, WRITE anything down, that you wouldn't mind the whole world reading. Because they may indeed"<br /><br />Peace.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05122571667351822132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-60292482083938083852010-09-08T02:30:16.269-04:002010-09-08T02:30:16.269-04:00Wow honey, I didn't know all this was going on...Wow honey, I didn't know all this was going on. I have and am learning a lot of the same lessons. It's really easy to think this conservative type, this religious type, this redneck type or straight male type...blah blah blah. Putting people in boxes thinking they are ALL a certain way. That's what we don't like to be done to us! What I am discovering is it's just futile to pre-judge someone based on anything. Maybe there are generalities, but don't count on everyone being the same. It just isn't that way. Take people one at a time. I think it's more important WHO someone is, than WHAT someone is. Maybe your coworkers are looking at you this way. :)<br /><br />Actually, it sounds great that most people aren't judging you that way. Your boss really sounds like a swell person and that has to be wonderful to have him on your side. Perhaps you'll have many more allies with you as you go thru this coming out. Who knows if you'll be able to handle it. You never know how strong you are till put to the test. You may surprise yourself sister. :) You've been thru so much already, I think you'll do just fine. Godspeed to ya sista!<br /><br />Peace, <3 TinaTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05122571667351822132noreply@blogger.com