tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post1445821343609961464..comments2023-09-18T10:58:08.037-04:00Comments on Dream.Flight.Genesis: Do I Ask So Much?ms.shandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-64027049560118673942010-01-07T16:52:56.119-05:002010-01-07T16:52:56.119-05:00*HUG*
Thanks Suzi! I'm doing fine now. They...*HUG*<br /><br />Thanks Suzi! I'm doing fine now. They are a lot less sore today, and the swelling has gotten better. :)<br /><br />Piercing your own ears takes a lot of courage. I do my own estrogen injections, but somehow pushing a needle through and actually having it come out the other side seems a lot more unsettling. That takes dedication.ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-3081502670215218732010-01-07T16:33:27.172-05:002010-01-07T16:33:27.172-05:00Shandy, Don't worry about infection unless it ...Shandy, Don't worry about infection unless it gets out of hand. By "out of hand" I mean extreme swelling, redness, and pain. You have to expect a little discomfort and discoloration for awhile...maybe even a few weeks...everyone is a little different. I noticed that mine were red and slightly swollen at the start. After cleaning the studs and my ears with alcohol, I would rub a thin layer of an anti-bacterial ointment on the stud and on the area around the holes. It'll clear up...don't you dare give up! :) BTW...I pierced my own with a sewing machine needle. Worked great...just had to push it through slowly. Suck it up soldier!...lol. It'll feel better when it quits hurting...or so I've been told. Hugs, SuziAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-49380194109625903162010-01-07T10:10:57.972-05:002010-01-07T10:10:57.972-05:00Sorry about that. I went a little crazy yesterday ...Sorry about that. I went a little crazy yesterday morning. If I go that crazy because my ears were a bit pink, can you imagine how irritating I'll be when recovering from GRS? :P<br /><br />This morning, I'm feeling pretty normal. Thanks Rebecca for helping me calm down and put this in perspective yesterday afternoon. Hopefully some time over the next couple of days I'll get to talk to someone in person who I'm comfortable asking about things like this. LOL!<br /><br />@Suzi Thanks so much. I'm really glad I got them pierced. After I get past the healing stage, it is going to be so fun trying lots of different earrings. =)ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-88749132908907905442010-01-06T13:55:59.463-05:002010-01-06T13:55:59.463-05:00Mine seemed to look sort of pinkish at times durin...Mine seemed to look sort of pinkish at times during the first week, but it soon passed. Try not to worry, I think if they were infected it would be obvious. Could you go back to where you got them pierced and ask the Sa there what she thinks? Make sure the back is not on too tight and pressing into your lobe. the main thing is to clean them, which you're doing, so you should be fine. It is frustrating having to learn these things on our own, but I tend to think we appreicate these tihngs more now than we would have when we were younger. Hang in there!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08640243168508343815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-39655487911226206182010-01-06T11:39:48.157-05:002010-01-06T11:39:48.157-05:00So frustrating being my age and not even knowing w...So frustrating being my age and not even knowing what a healing piercing should look like, and not really having anyone I can have look at it easily. I get so tired of having to learn lessons like these in a vacuum. If i were born normal, Mom would have helped me with this stuff when I was in my teens, and I wouldn't now be a 33 year old who is late for work because I just spent an hour crying about earrings.ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-77757240593051028122010-01-06T11:34:08.901-05:002010-01-06T11:34:08.901-05:00This morning I'm all paranoid about them. I c...This morning I'm all paranoid about them. I clean them constantly, but my lobes are a bit pinkish, and the left seems to be showing some mild swelling. Except for the very slight pink tint, there's nothing someone else would notice. But when I push then through a bit to clean underneath, its red, and its wet, and there's an indention, like the body of the earring is sinking into my ear the slightest bit. <br /><br />I'm afraid if things don't look better by tomorrow I'm just going to have to give up, take them out, let them heal and try again later. I don't want to take chances on infection and its starting to look so weird under there. :(ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-42869423721264316672010-01-05T22:31:15.119-05:002010-01-05T22:31:15.119-05:00Shandy, I'm so glad you got those babies pierc...Shandy, I'm so glad you got those babies pierced. This is no small thing. You will find it to be so much fun picking out earrings for EVERY occasion... from eating breakfast to New Years parties...lol. The only problem with having pierced ears is that your shopping options have just grown by geometrical progression. What a great problem to have. :)SuziAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-52861167970219871332010-01-05T21:55:26.357-05:002010-01-05T21:55:26.357-05:00I'm not sure I'm brave enough. We have a ...I'm not sure I'm brave enough. We have a few weeks to think about it though! :Pms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-783734637466640632010-01-05T15:33:31.070-05:002010-01-05T15:33:31.070-05:00We'll have to make a deal to both wear big hoo...We'll have to make a deal to both wear big hoops to work once our ears have healed and we can wear any type of earrings!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08640243168508343815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-77974281218841417912010-01-05T14:52:12.220-05:002010-01-05T14:52:12.220-05:00@Rebecca I find that anymore, I'm trying to ma...@Rebecca I find that anymore, I'm trying to make a statement, rather than wanting to slip by unnoticed. Right now, I'm wearing my hair down over the earrings, try to limit how distracting they are. But part of me wants to just style my hair the way I ussualy do and let people deal with the rings. I'm proud of them. :)<br /><br />Maybe if that doesn't get me comments, I'll try giant hoops too. LOL!ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-75942288666138655912010-01-05T11:45:57.039-05:002010-01-05T11:45:57.039-05:00It's so true about the ear piercing and how we...It's so true about the ear piercing and how we make such a big deal out of it in our heads and expect everyone to notice, and it turns out the reality is so much different. I'm almost disappointed no one has even commented that I got my ears pierced! I guess in four weeks I'll have to wear some big hoops or some fancy dangly ones to make people notice!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08640243168508343815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-21078010753529171872010-01-04T17:17:39.326-05:002010-01-04T17:17:39.326-05:00@Renee LOL! Yes, I think it will be about like tha...@Renee LOL! Yes, I think it will be about like that for me. I think people give us a lot less scrutiny than we realize. Whether my ears are pierced jsut probably isn't that big a deal to anyone except me. And, well, maybe Mom. :Sms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-84788768090369124592010-01-04T17:02:25.175-05:002010-01-04T17:02:25.175-05:00@ Ms. Shandy...funny thing, he and I actually beca...@ Ms. Shandy...funny thing, he and I actually became friends afterward. I mean, I do understand what he was going through and I am willing to offer support, I'm just not going to allow him live viscerally through me. We lost contact about two months ago when he made another play for me and now I'm kind of worried about him. He was in a bad way and hasn't returned calls. <br /><br />Funny ear-piercing story for y'all: My ears were pierced for weeks and still no one at work had made mentioned of it. So finally I let slip to one of the guys that I had pierced my ears and expected some kind of blowback from it; he looked at me quizzically and said: "You got your ears pierced? Huh, I guess so." And that was that. Years and years of sturm und drang and that was the total amount of response it generated...so what was I waiting for? Anyway, it still makes me laugh when I think about it.Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15688972226193612658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-21391809199766228522010-01-04T12:54:48.556-05:002010-01-04T12:54:48.556-05:00@Jerica I'm so sorry your Mom is that way. Lif...@Jerica I'm so sorry your Mom is that way. Life is so short and its always a shame to see a family stop communicating over a disagreement. My situation may turn out the same, but so far they have tolerated me.<br /><br />@Rebecca Congratulations! Isn't it great? :) <br /><br />@Leslie I never back down. By nature I want to make people around me happy, and its hard, disappointing those I love. I've become a bit more comfortable with standing my ground when its necessary though. Nothing I do in regards to transition is optional, and I make that clear.<br /><br />I'd love to see you and your wife at our next New Year's thing. That would be such a pleasure. <br /><br />@Renee I find myself agreeing with you a lot too! Your comment on Jamie's blog about male and female relationship rolls for instance. I dated a guy like that too. VERY briefly. Oh so very. LOL!ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-1140068418130380842010-01-04T10:23:53.366-05:002010-01-04T10:23:53.366-05:00Wow girl! Quite a post! It was very emotional for ...Wow girl! Quite a post! It was very emotional for me to read. It sounds like you had a great time at Walmart and I laugh at your worries partly because they were my own at one point and partly because you are beautifully feminine. =) <br /><br />Talking about your mother, I can very much relate...I've had crazy arguments with my mom and now of course she doesn't talk to me. It's sad and I hope she can overcome her discomfort at some pt in the future.<br /><br />As for the earrings...that's exactly what happened to me except I went in guy mode haha. The gal asked me why I was getting mine pierced and I made up some excuse lol. It didn't hurt at all and most people at work don't even notice =)<br /><br />*hugs*Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08439899365645222255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-68685291775212761532010-01-04T09:28:10.860-05:002010-01-04T09:28:10.860-05:00I just got my ears pierced twelve days ago! It was...I just got my ears pierced twelve days ago! It was also a really big step for me, and something I'd wanted to do for over twenty years but had been too scared to do. I can't believe I'm so comfortable with it, because even a year ago I would have been a nervous wreck worrying about what everyone else thought about it. Now I don't even think about having them pierced most of the time. I was a bit nervous about going to work the first time, but no one said a word about them. I'm so happy you got yours pierced too, and I share your excitement! Sorry things were rough with your mom and dad, but hang in there. <br /><br />RebeccaRebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08640243168508343815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-41936624171762887282010-01-04T03:52:32.567-05:002010-01-04T03:52:32.567-05:00Yes, Shandy, you cannot back down or they will nev...Yes, Shandy, you cannot back down or they will never give ground again. I know it's hard to fight them, but you really have to.<br /><br />The New Year's party sounds very nice. Maybe next year, Mrs. Leslie would be willing to attend, if we were invited(!). We actually discussed it some as a hypothetical this year. I can't imagine a better way to ring in the new than with one's best friends.<br /><br />Love the ear piercing tale. Maybe one day I'll be doing the same, though maybe not at Walmart.Leslie Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373261212549008939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-6893553019265595292010-01-04T00:29:27.371-05:002010-01-04T00:29:27.371-05:00She's lucky to have you as a friend. I don...She's lucky to have you as a friend. I don't know why, but I find myself always nodding and smiling as I read your comments and blogs. Okay, maybe grimacing a bit if the blog isn't such a nice, but still right there with you.<br /><br />At any rate, this is a hard medium to communicate in and I'm no stranger to provocation. I'm working on that though. :-)Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15688972226193612658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-12090815553985660862010-01-03T23:44:37.526-05:002010-01-03T23:44:37.526-05:00After holding back so many years, it was rough for...After holding back so many years, it was rough for me to open up and be myself as well. I was always self conscious that people would not take me seriously. I've gotten past that with most people now, but with people like Mom who object to my true gender, its still very hard. Hidden tribulations indeed. Transition is such a complex undertaking.<br /><br />Oh, and you weren't really so conflagratory. I still stand by my post leading up to that, but my phrasing was very overbearing. You have training relevant to the discussion so you weighed in, and I overreacted. The author of that blog is a very dear friend, and I tend to get pretty impassioned about events discussed there. I guess sometimes I overreach. My opinion is still the same, but I'm so sorry I became that combative.ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-2136574559671758672010-01-03T22:48:48.674-05:002010-01-03T22:48:48.674-05:00No problem. I'm trying to make a habit of com...No problem. I'm trying to make a habit of commenting, and not just when I have some conflagratory opinion to voice. :p<br /><br />One of the hardest things to do, for me anyway, was to become comfortable asserting my female identity. I was always afraid of the conflict it might lead to (though rarely did). They never really tell us about all these hidden tribulations that come with transition, huh?Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15688972226193612658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-7167759762441383442010-01-03T20:11:22.576-05:002010-01-03T20:11:22.576-05:00Thanks Renee. Mostly it isn't so bad. They a...Thanks Renee. Mostly it isn't so bad. They are both adjusting. Every time I make a change, Mom reacts this way. But its a little easier to stand up for myself each time. Back at one point, I was so afraid that, to her, it was laughable if I became defiant and told her that I will be myself, and that I'm a woman. <br /><br />At this point though, I realize what matters is not whether she believes, but simply that its the truth. I can look her in the eye and say it now. Since I realized that, it has gotten easier to handle these moments. <br /><br />It does still hurt though. Really its not her fault. Her reaction makes sense form her point of view, and her point of view comes from a lifetime of experience that doesn't include anyone at all like me. I just keep hoping that someday patience and honesty will prevail and she will start seeing me for who I truly am.<br /><br />As for the earrings, it does feel like a major step. And I'm very proud. Just thrilled really. :)<br /><br />Thanks s much for commenting. =)ms.shandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804709919987506302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492301101861096075.post-17652098929939224572010-01-03T18:22:16.117-05:002010-01-03T18:22:16.117-05:00Getting my ears pierced was the biggest moment for...Getting my ears pierced was the biggest moment for me. Maybe bigger than hormones, or going fulltime, or anything. I just wanted it so bad, and it was the first real, tangible step I took in transition. You're going to love it, I'm sure. :p<br /><br />I follow along with your blog and it just kills me to hear these stories about your mother and father. I can't wrap my head around it at all. You're handling it about as well as you can, but that you have to at all is sad. Hugs to you.Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15688972226193612658noreply@blogger.com